The most interesting person to your teen right now isn’t the lead singer in a band or the hot movie star of the moment. It’s your teen. Which makes complete sense because they’re in a time of great change, and they’re trying to answer that vital question: Who am I? Sometimes that self-interest can come across as self-absorbed, but look through a different lens. The endless selfies are documentation of a developmental process to figure out their place in the world. So rejoice: teens aren’t self-absorbed; they’re self-interested, which will help them figure out their values and interests.