Be a Subtle Question Asker

Your teen walks into your home after a party. Do you jump out of the shadows, shining a flashlight in their face while you ask: “Was there alcohol at the party?” Even if you don’t literally do that, it’s how your teen feels when you question them directly. You may find out more if you ask subtle questions so your teen doesn’t feel judged. For example, “Jane always complains that they have a small place. How did they handle all the kids who showed up?” Ask about things that matter less to get to the questions that matter more.


