When Help Is Not Helpful

“Let me help you with that.” It sounds friendly, right? Helpful? But what if we told you that what is helpful at the moment is possibly damaging in the future? Teens need to learn resilience; it’s an important tool for navigating adulthood. When you tell them you’re going to help, they subconsciously hear that you don’t think they can do it on their own. Instead, encourage them to try new things. Even if they fail, you’re sending the message that you think they’re capable, smart, and able to grow from their mistakes. You know—resilient.

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About Melissa Ford

Melissa Ford is the senior strategist at Women Online. As a writer, she covers a diverse range of topics including education, health, technology, and parenting. She is also the mother of amazing twin teens.

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