The Why Rule
Think of a rule you have for your teen. Now think about why you’ve set that boundary. Do you know why you have that rule? If you do, make sure you’ve explained the “why” behind the boundary. Teens follow rules they know benefit them and tend to rebel against or ignore the ones they see as meaningless. Making sure everyone knows the “why” (and it has to be better than “because I said so”) will help ensure the rules are followed and that unnecessary boundaries are lifted. It’s the Why Rule for setting rules: think about and then explain the reason behind the request.