That’s Not Fair!
If you haven’t heard the words “it’s not fair!” from your teen, well… you’re probably not doing your job. This is doubly true if you have more than one child and one is allowed to do things that the other isn’t. Flexible parenting means meeting each child exactly where they are right now, and giving them what they need––including boundaries!––to succeed. Point out the connection between the privilege and the person, showing how much behaviour influences trust. And remind your child that they’ll get there, too. They just need to prove they’re ready for the new responsibility.