This may surprise you, but discipline means “to teach”––not punish or control. When we talk about disciplining our kids, we’re really talking about guiding teens into becoming adults prepared to thrive in a world with rules and expectations. So make the consequences fit with the lesson you’re trying to teach, making sure you’re focused on shaping behavior and not imposing control. Discipline involves explanation and conversation, leading to reflection and growth. Offer love and rules and you’ll raise a teen who thrives on their way to adulthood rather than pushing back against authority.