Your teen messes up and loses your trust — how do they gain it back? It can help to create a responsibility contract with your teen. Sit down together and negotiate how your teen can regain privileges. Remember, negotiation means both people listen and meet somewhere in the middle; this needs collaboration to be successful. Done well, teens will see the clear link between responsibility and earned privileges. Also, you don’t need to wait for a mistake to be made. Create a responsibility contract now, updating the contract from time to time, to have a tool that generates trust and understanding.