It’s a teen paradox: when teens are feeling (and sometimes acting) the least kind is when they’re most likely to need kindness from you. Teens express their pain with people they’re comfortable with. So give them kindness. Instead of raising your voice or mirroring their anger or rudeness, take a deep breath, ask them a calm question, and listen. Your kindness can actually create kindness. Your teen is just scared and frustrated, but they still have their compassionate heart. So make your home a safe place for your teen to be themselves and always be met with kindness.