When You Both Have Feelings
When a family argument happens, both you AND your teen will be dealing with emotions at the same time. And while everyone’s feelings are important, you will have this trick in your pocket to defuse the situation and get you back on solid ground. Listen and acknowledge their emotions first, and then repeat their emotional state after they speak, beginning with, “I think that you’re feeling … Am I right?” Your teen needs to know that you’ve heard them, their emotions are important, and you’re open to learning more. Once heard, they’ll be more likely to listen to your “I’m feeling” statement.