When your kids were little, you told them where to go and what to do, and they mostly went along with it because you were the adult. But that doesn’t work during the teen years. Kids must expand their limits and test out new responsibilities — it’s practically rule number one in the teen handbook. It’s how teens learn to be functioning adults. Teens push back when they sense you’re putting your foot down for the sake of putting your foot down. So let them stretch. They’ll listen to your firm rules better when they know you’re flexible too.