Are you more likely to hear and internalize feedback from your boss if he or she delivers it calmly or screeches it at you? Hint: Your teen reacts the same way that you do. That’s because you’re both humans, and we tend to hear calm criticism better. So check yourself before you speak, and delay feedback if you’re not calm. If your emotions are running high, wait until you can deliver your thoughts without shaming or blaming. Be specific, addressing what is within your teen’s control to improve. When you’re targeted, your words reach your target, which is your teen.