Punishments don’t actually work (surprise!), but you know what does? Discipline. Wait! Before you click away thinking we’re playing Jedi mind tricks by presenting the same idea with a new name, look again: discipline is a way of teaching natural consequences whereas punishment is meant to control another person. Discipline shapes behavior by conveying how you want your teen to navigate the world through expectations you develop with your teen. So ditch trying to enforce a ton of rules in favor of guiding your teen to their best self.